Two years ago today I came out as "not a man" to my wife.
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Two years ago today I came out as "not a man" to my wife. She was the first person I ever told it to.
I sorta always knew that fact. But a̶l̶l̶o̶w̶e̶d̶ ̶m̶y̶s̶e̶l̶f̶ ̶t̶o̶ ̶b̶e̶ was gaslit as a kid into thinking I was a boy. But I allowed myself to say those words definitively to myself sometime in the previous 48 hours and then to my wife that evening.
I didn't really have an egg crack, I say I did but it was more very long overdue acceptance of something I knew for 30 years, but a commitment to do something about it.
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Two years ago today I came out as "not a man" to my wife. She was the first person I ever told it to.
I sorta always knew that fact. But a̶l̶l̶o̶w̶e̶d̶ ̶m̶y̶s̶e̶l̶f̶ ̶t̶o̶ ̶b̶e̶ was gaslit as a kid into thinking I was a boy. But I allowed myself to say those words definitively to myself sometime in the previous 48 hours and then to my wife that evening.
I didn't really have an egg crack, I say I did but it was more very long overdue acceptance of something I knew for 30 years, but a commitment to do something about it.
@jojo hell yeah jo
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Two years ago today I came out as "not a man" to my wife. She was the first person I ever told it to.
I sorta always knew that fact. But a̶l̶l̶o̶w̶e̶d̶ ̶m̶y̶s̶e̶l̶f̶ ̶t̶o̶ ̶b̶e̶ was gaslit as a kid into thinking I was a boy. But I allowed myself to say those words definitively to myself sometime in the previous 48 hours and then to my wife that evening.
I didn't really have an egg crack, I say I did but it was more very long overdue acceptance of something I knew for 30 years, but a commitment to do something about it.
@jojo I feel somewhat similarly about my egg cracking. I didn't know at all when I was a kid, though there were signs, but by age twenty, there was a part of me that knew, though the rest of me either didn't know or was in denial.
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@jojo I feel somewhat similarly about my egg cracking. I didn't know at all when I was a kid, though there were signs, but by age twenty, there was a part of me that knew, though the rest of me either didn't know or was in denial.
@jojo and happy tranniversary!
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@jojo I feel somewhat similarly about my egg cracking. I didn't know at all when I was a kid, though there were signs, but by age twenty, there was a part of me that knew, though the rest of me either didn't know or was in denial.
I knew at age 10 or so and slowly let the gaslighting shift me to believing I was actually a dude which solidified around age 25 or so. But we are talking solidified like jello is solid, not concrete or something.
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I knew at age 10 or so and slowly let the gaslighting shift me to believing I was actually a dude which solidified around age 25 or so. But we are talking solidified like jello is solid, not concrete or something.
@jojo I feel like there was a part of me that knew and was just waiting for a chance. It is still hard for me to understand how I didn't know.
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Two years ago today I came out as "not a man" to my wife. She was the first person I ever told it to.
I sorta always knew that fact. But a̶l̶l̶o̶w̶e̶d̶ ̶m̶y̶s̶e̶l̶f̶ ̶t̶o̶ ̶b̶e̶ was gaslit as a kid into thinking I was a boy. But I allowed myself to say those words definitively to myself sometime in the previous 48 hours and then to my wife that evening.
I didn't really have an egg crack, I say I did but it was more very long overdue acceptance of something I knew for 30 years, but a commitment to do something about it.
@jojo A pretty similar experience here; I knew for 20 years, and just.. couldn't, then didn't, do anything about it.
I'm glad you jumped and went for it. So many good doors in life open after you accept it in yourself.
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