The sale of my mom's house was complete a week ago.
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The sale of my mom's house was complete a week ago. I'm still getting used to someone else living in the house I grew up in. It was different with renters. They were borrowing it. Now the house is gone.
I had felt for a long time that the house was dead for my family. My parents divorced not long after my brother and I moved out, and my mom lived there alone for another twenty years. I liked seeing families with kids checking it out during the selling process. It's a house and yard with a lot of room for a new family. I hope it brings them joy.
My mom has been in a memory care facility since June, 2025, and the cost has gradually increased from $6800 a month to $7800, due to room changes and care needs. She declined more in the last month and an opening came up in a house with "increased care." It's now $9800 a month.
We were fortunate in the sale of the house. It happened just before her other savings ran out. Now we have enough for about three years before I'll need to figure out Medicare. The house is still taking care of her, I guess.
There won't be anything for the next generation, but I never really expected that. I worry about housing for our kids, but I understand why they wouldn't want to be tied to the logging town where we grew up.
Still, it's amazing how fast the medical machine can eat a family's legacy these days. The house is gone, and in just a few years the money will be gone, too.
#getablog, #sandwichgeneration
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The sale of my mom's house was complete a week ago. I'm still getting used to someone else living in the house I grew up in. It was different with renters. They were borrowing it. Now the house is gone.
I had felt for a long time that the house was dead for my family. My parents divorced not long after my brother and I moved out, and my mom lived there alone for another twenty years. I liked seeing families with kids checking it out during the selling process. It's a house and yard with a lot of room for a new family. I hope it brings them joy.
My mom has been in a memory care facility since June, 2025, and the cost has gradually increased from $6800 a month to $7800, due to room changes and care needs. She declined more in the last month and an opening came up in a house with "increased care." It's now $9800 a month.
We were fortunate in the sale of the house. It happened just before her other savings ran out. Now we have enough for about three years before I'll need to figure out Medicare. The house is still taking care of her, I guess.
There won't be anything for the next generation, but I never really expected that. I worry about housing for our kids, but I understand why they wouldn't want to be tied to the logging town where we grew up.
Still, it's amazing how fast the medical machine can eat a family's legacy these days. The house is gone, and in just a few years the money will be gone, too.
#getablog, #sandwichgeneration
@james Oof. I know where you're coming from with this. My mom just passed last fall. She was fortunate to be in a (relatively) less expensive independent living situation but it was still $4k/mo and more toward the end there. My parents' 30 year house covered about five years for her, with almost nothing left. I know that level of care is expensive, but it still seems crazy to hoover up a whole life of frugal living in such a short time.
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@james Oof. I know where you're coming from with this. My mom just passed last fall. She was fortunate to be in a (relatively) less expensive independent living situation but it was still $4k/mo and more toward the end there. My parents' 30 year house covered about five years for her, with almost nothing left. I know that level of care is expensive, but it still seems crazy to hoover up a whole life of frugal living in such a short time.
@coreysnipes I'm sorry about your mom. I don't know what's going to fix this in the U.S. I feel like we're watching these costs explode in real time.
