My grandmother died today.
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I got to really talk to my oldest (still much-younger) cousin alone in a way I haven't before. They're transmasc non-binary and live in a TINY town in Washington State which I think is hard for a number of reasons (they're a wildlife biologist and love their job but haven't found their people). Wise beyond their years; we have very different versions and memories of grandma because of the 23-year age gap between us but have been having some good conversations about those memories. Not sure if I'll really see them much in person now, which is sad.
@Bronwyn get everyone's contact info when you gather for your grandmother's funeral/celebration of life (if you're having one).
Set up a family text chat just to keep in touch. And schedule a zoom now and then to see each other if desired. It isn't a replacement for being in person, but it connects people across physical divides. -
My grandmother died today. It's been a long time coming but it's still sad.
I'm old to still have had a grandmother, but she was my dad's step-mom; his mom died when he was 9 and his dad married a much younger woman. But we never used the word "step-grandmother," she was my grandma from the day I was born.
She was not quite 39 when I was born, and had a 10-year-old and 13-year-old at home and it's only recently that I've fully realized how strange it must have been to become a grandparent at that stage of life.
But from the moment I was born, she was a dedicated grandmother, even while raising kids of her own.
She was diagnosed with multiple myeloma 5-6 years ago and I thought the end was near then but she just kept going, and until recently, had a really good quality of life. I would pick her up and take her to lunch when I could (she'd always pay) at the Cheesecake Factory, which was her favorite.
She was the matriarch of our small extended family and things will be very different now.
@Bronwyn sorry for your loss. She sounds like a wonderful person.
May part of her memory find a warm place in your heart -
My grandmother died today. It's been a long time coming but it's still sad.
I'm old to still have had a grandmother, but she was my dad's step-mom; his mom died when he was 9 and his dad married a much younger woman. But we never used the word "step-grandmother," she was my grandma from the day I was born.
She was not quite 39 when I was born, and had a 10-year-old and 13-year-old at home and it's only recently that I've fully realized how strange it must have been to become a grandparent at that stage of life.
But from the moment I was born, she was a dedicated grandmother, even while raising kids of her own.
She was diagnosed with multiple myeloma 5-6 years ago and I thought the end was near then but she just kept going, and until recently, had a really good quality of life. I would pick her up and take her to lunch when I could (she'd always pay) at the Cheesecake Factory, which was her favorite.
She was the matriarch of our small extended family and things will be very different now.
@Bronwyn my condolences for such a great loss.
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My grandmother died today. It's been a long time coming but it's still sad.
I'm old to still have had a grandmother, but she was my dad's step-mom; his mom died when he was 9 and his dad married a much younger woman. But we never used the word "step-grandmother," she was my grandma from the day I was born.
She was not quite 39 when I was born, and had a 10-year-old and 13-year-old at home and it's only recently that I've fully realized how strange it must have been to become a grandparent at that stage of life.
But from the moment I was born, she was a dedicated grandmother, even while raising kids of her own.
She was diagnosed with multiple myeloma 5-6 years ago and I thought the end was near then but she just kept going, and until recently, had a really good quality of life. I would pick her up and take her to lunch when I could (she'd always pay) at the Cheesecake Factory, which was her favorite.
She was the matriarch of our small extended family and things will be very different now.
@Bronwyn 🫂
My stepdad is basically too young to be my dad. Not biologically, but he's only 13 years older. So I've lost my parents, but at this stage stepdad doesn't feel like a parent. And with my actual parents gone, it feels really weird. -
My grandmother died today. It's been a long time coming but it's still sad.
I'm old to still have had a grandmother, but she was my dad's step-mom; his mom died when he was 9 and his dad married a much younger woman. But we never used the word "step-grandmother," she was my grandma from the day I was born.
She was not quite 39 when I was born, and had a 10-year-old and 13-year-old at home and it's only recently that I've fully realized how strange it must have been to become a grandparent at that stage of life.
But from the moment I was born, she was a dedicated grandmother, even while raising kids of her own.
She was diagnosed with multiple myeloma 5-6 years ago and I thought the end was near then but she just kept going, and until recently, had a really good quality of life. I would pick her up and take her to lunch when I could (she'd always pay) at the Cheesecake Factory, which was her favorite.
She was the matriarch of our small extended family and things will be very different now.
@Bronwyn Embracing you this morning. She sounds like the most wonderful person, and I’m glad you had her as your family.
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My grandmother died today. It's been a long time coming but it's still sad.
I'm old to still have had a grandmother, but she was my dad's step-mom; his mom died when he was 9 and his dad married a much younger woman. But we never used the word "step-grandmother," she was my grandma from the day I was born.
She was not quite 39 when I was born, and had a 10-year-old and 13-year-old at home and it's only recently that I've fully realized how strange it must have been to become a grandparent at that stage of life.
But from the moment I was born, she was a dedicated grandmother, even while raising kids of her own.
She was diagnosed with multiple myeloma 5-6 years ago and I thought the end was near then but she just kept going, and until recently, had a really good quality of life. I would pick her up and take her to lunch when I could (she'd always pay) at the Cheesecake Factory, which was her favorite.
She was the matriarch of our small extended family and things will be very different now.
@Bronwyn Sympathies. Sorry to hear of such a loss but heartening that you had such a wonderful Grandmother who I'm sure played a pivotal part in your family and happily took this on at a later time in their life than most. Very best wishes and much empathy.
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My grandmother died today. It's been a long time coming but it's still sad.
I'm old to still have had a grandmother, but she was my dad's step-mom; his mom died when he was 9 and his dad married a much younger woman. But we never used the word "step-grandmother," she was my grandma from the day I was born.
She was not quite 39 when I was born, and had a 10-year-old and 13-year-old at home and it's only recently that I've fully realized how strange it must have been to become a grandparent at that stage of life.
But from the moment I was born, she was a dedicated grandmother, even while raising kids of her own.
She was diagnosed with multiple myeloma 5-6 years ago and I thought the end was near then but she just kept going, and until recently, had a really good quality of life. I would pick her up and take her to lunch when I could (she'd always pay) at the Cheesecake Factory, which was her favorite.
She was the matriarch of our small extended family and things will be very different now.
@Bronwyn looks like some very sweet memories entwined with very fresh grief. It's a strange world to navigate. Sending you comfort for your heart, and light for your feet.
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My grandmother died today. It's been a long time coming but it's still sad.
I'm old to still have had a grandmother, but she was my dad's step-mom; his mom died when he was 9 and his dad married a much younger woman. But we never used the word "step-grandmother," she was my grandma from the day I was born.
She was not quite 39 when I was born, and had a 10-year-old and 13-year-old at home and it's only recently that I've fully realized how strange it must have been to become a grandparent at that stage of life.
But from the moment I was born, she was a dedicated grandmother, even while raising kids of her own.
She was diagnosed with multiple myeloma 5-6 years ago and I thought the end was near then but she just kept going, and until recently, had a really good quality of life. I would pick her up and take her to lunch when I could (she'd always pay) at the Cheesecake Factory, which was her favorite.
She was the matriarch of our small extended family and things will be very different now.
@Bronwyn so sorry for what happened but I have passed through the same experience since yesterday!
I also lost my grandmother whom I had stayed a period of 3-4 yrs without meeting her!
I can say that it was my carelessness to see her again when she is going to be burried!
May her soul rest in the eternal peace! -
@Bronwyn 🫂
My stepdad is basically too young to be my dad. Not biologically, but he's only 13 years older. So I've lost my parents, but at this stage stepdad doesn't feel like a parent. And with my actual parents gone, it feels really weird.@raven yes my dad and grandma were only 14 years apart!
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@raven yes my dad and grandma were only 14 years apart!
@Bronwyn Oh, for some reason I didn't even think about it... I still have my step-grandmother, and I'm in my late 50's. I think she's in her 80's now, but I haven't seen her for a few years. She used to travel and stay with each of her three kids for a month at a time, but she stopped traveling when she developed heart problems.
I kind of miss her, but I never knew her all that well. Definitely not close.
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@Bronwyn so sorry for what happened but I have passed through the same experience since yesterday!
I also lost my grandmother whom I had stayed a period of 3-4 yrs without meeting her!
I can say that it was my carelessness to see her again when she is going to be burried!
May her soul rest in the eternal peace!@2003MugishaPhocit oh I’m so sorry
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@2003MugishaPhocit oh I’m so sorry
@Bronwyn Though,I have got to know that this is the same journey for all people on this planet!
We are going to sleep at the burial for the second day! -
My grandmother died today. It's been a long time coming but it's still sad.
I'm old to still have had a grandmother, but she was my dad's step-mom; his mom died when he was 9 and his dad married a much younger woman. But we never used the word "step-grandmother," she was my grandma from the day I was born.
She was not quite 39 when I was born, and had a 10-year-old and 13-year-old at home and it's only recently that I've fully realized how strange it must have been to become a grandparent at that stage of life.
But from the moment I was born, she was a dedicated grandmother, even while raising kids of her own.
She was diagnosed with multiple myeloma 5-6 years ago and I thought the end was near then but she just kept going, and until recently, had a really good quality of life. I would pick her up and take her to lunch when I could (she'd always pay) at the Cheesecake Factory, which was her favorite.
She was the matriarch of our small extended family and things will be very different now.
@Bronwyn May her memory be a blessing.
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My grandmother died today. It's been a long time coming but it's still sad.
I'm old to still have had a grandmother, but she was my dad's step-mom; his mom died when he was 9 and his dad married a much younger woman. But we never used the word "step-grandmother," she was my grandma from the day I was born.
She was not quite 39 when I was born, and had a 10-year-old and 13-year-old at home and it's only recently that I've fully realized how strange it must have been to become a grandparent at that stage of life.
But from the moment I was born, she was a dedicated grandmother, even while raising kids of her own.
She was diagnosed with multiple myeloma 5-6 years ago and I thought the end was near then but she just kept going, and until recently, had a really good quality of life. I would pick her up and take her to lunch when I could (she'd always pay) at the Cheesecake Factory, which was her favorite.
She was the matriarch of our small extended family and things will be very different now.
@Bronwyn I'm sorry for your loss, but happy you had an experience similar to mine, a wonderful, loving step-grandmother who you could spend time with late in her life.
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@Bronwyn get everyone's contact info when you gather for your grandmother's funeral/celebration of life (if you're having one).
Set up a family text chat just to keep in touch. And schedule a zoom now and then to see each other if desired. It isn't a replacement for being in person, but it connects people across physical divides.@KarenCampe @Bronwyn
A great idea. -
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