Hello, I’m Onyx (they/them),for most of my life, I considered myself a cis man (to be fair, I never thought about it much).
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Hello, I’m Onyx (they/them),
for most of my life, I considered myself a cis man (to be fair, I never thought about it much). In recent years I had the time and mindset to work on my psyche. First I got diagnosed with ADHD and I’m probably on the (low end) of the autism spectrum, though there is no official diagnosis. This was during the time where I asked myself “who am I?”. Almost all my life I adjusted myself and my behaviour to fit the group I was currently in. So during this – ongoing – discovery, the topic of my gender surfaced too. I never considered myself masculine, even though I dress like that, even having a full beard.
Over time, I thought about it more and more and now I don’t know whether I am cis male, trans, non-binary or maybe agender. I talked to someone recently and they asked me whether I would push a button, if this would transform me. My answer was that I probably would push it quite easily, but that I didn’t know what the result of said transformation would be. That leads me to the conclusion that cis male is probably not the right description for me.All in all, with this account I want to see who I am.
This includes testing out my pronouns. I’m starting with “they/them”, those, and the name, are subject to change.Aside from that, I’m a software developer from the south of Germany and I like to do sports, read and on occasion do some photography.
@low hi and welcome here! Your relationship to gender reminds me a lot of myself 8 years ago ^^
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Hello, I’m Onyx (they/them),
for most of my life, I considered myself a cis man (to be fair, I never thought about it much). In recent years I had the time and mindset to work on my psyche. First I got diagnosed with ADHD and I’m probably on the (low end) of the autism spectrum, though there is no official diagnosis. This was during the time where I asked myself “who am I?”. Almost all my life I adjusted myself and my behaviour to fit the group I was currently in. So during this – ongoing – discovery, the topic of my gender surfaced too. I never considered myself masculine, even though I dress like that, even having a full beard.
Over time, I thought about it more and more and now I don’t know whether I am cis male, trans, non-binary or maybe agender. I talked to someone recently and they asked me whether I would push a button, if this would transform me. My answer was that I probably would push it quite easily, but that I didn’t know what the result of said transformation would be. That leads me to the conclusion that cis male is probably not the right description for me.All in all, with this account I want to see who I am.
This includes testing out my pronouns. I’m starting with “they/them”, those, and the name, are subject to change.Aside from that, I’m a software developer from the south of Germany and I like to do sports, read and on occasion do some photography.
@low Hi there

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Hello, I’m Onyx (they/them),
for most of my life, I considered myself a cis man (to be fair, I never thought about it much). In recent years I had the time and mindset to work on my psyche. First I got diagnosed with ADHD and I’m probably on the (low end) of the autism spectrum, though there is no official diagnosis. This was during the time where I asked myself “who am I?”. Almost all my life I adjusted myself and my behaviour to fit the group I was currently in. So during this – ongoing – discovery, the topic of my gender surfaced too. I never considered myself masculine, even though I dress like that, even having a full beard.
Over time, I thought about it more and more and now I don’t know whether I am cis male, trans, non-binary or maybe agender. I talked to someone recently and they asked me whether I would push a button, if this would transform me. My answer was that I probably would push it quite easily, but that I didn’t know what the result of said transformation would be. That leads me to the conclusion that cis male is probably not the right description for me.All in all, with this account I want to see who I am.
This includes testing out my pronouns. I’m starting with “they/them”, those, and the name, are subject to change.Aside from that, I’m a software developer from the south of Germany and I like to do sports, read and on occasion do some photography.
@low
Welcome to the gendventure!
Remember, it's neither a sprint, nor a marathon. It's more like a lazy river at a water park.Just don't forget the sunscreen.
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Hello, I’m Onyx (they/them),
for most of my life, I considered myself a cis man (to be fair, I never thought about it much). In recent years I had the time and mindset to work on my psyche. First I got diagnosed with ADHD and I’m probably on the (low end) of the autism spectrum, though there is no official diagnosis. This was during the time where I asked myself “who am I?”. Almost all my life I adjusted myself and my behaviour to fit the group I was currently in. So during this – ongoing – discovery, the topic of my gender surfaced too. I never considered myself masculine, even though I dress like that, even having a full beard.
Over time, I thought about it more and more and now I don’t know whether I am cis male, trans, non-binary or maybe agender. I talked to someone recently and they asked me whether I would push a button, if this would transform me. My answer was that I probably would push it quite easily, but that I didn’t know what the result of said transformation would be. That leads me to the conclusion that cis male is probably not the right description for me.All in all, with this account I want to see who I am.
This includes testing out my pronouns. I’m starting with “they/them”, those, and the name, are subject to change.Aside from that, I’m a software developer from the south of Germany and I like to do sports, read and on occasion do some photography.
@low Hello, Onyx! Nice to meet you!
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@teadrinker thank you!
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@low Hello, Onyx! Nice to meet you!
@faithisleaping nice to meet you too!
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@low
Welcome to the gendventure!
Remember, it's neither a sprint, nor a marathon. It's more like a lazy river at a water park.Just don't forget the sunscreen.
@pockets spf 50 is always in reach!
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@low Hi there

@agturcz hello to you too!
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@low hi and welcome here! Your relationship to gender reminds me a lot of myself 8 years ago ^^
@miranda_blue thank you, I'm curious as to how that will evolve

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Hello, I’m Onyx (they/them),
for most of my life, I considered myself a cis man (to be fair, I never thought about it much). In recent years I had the time and mindset to work on my psyche. First I got diagnosed with ADHD and I’m probably on the (low end) of the autism spectrum, though there is no official diagnosis. This was during the time where I asked myself “who am I?”. Almost all my life I adjusted myself and my behaviour to fit the group I was currently in. So during this – ongoing – discovery, the topic of my gender surfaced too. I never considered myself masculine, even though I dress like that, even having a full beard.
Over time, I thought about it more and more and now I don’t know whether I am cis male, trans, non-binary or maybe agender. I talked to someone recently and they asked me whether I would push a button, if this would transform me. My answer was that I probably would push it quite easily, but that I didn’t know what the result of said transformation would be. That leads me to the conclusion that cis male is probably not the right description for me.All in all, with this account I want to see who I am.
This includes testing out my pronouns. I’m starting with “they/them”, those, and the name, are subject to change.Aside from that, I’m a software developer from the south of Germany and I like to do sports, read and on occasion do some photography.
@low hallo

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Hello, I’m Onyx (they/them),
for most of my life, I considered myself a cis man (to be fair, I never thought about it much). In recent years I had the time and mindset to work on my psyche. First I got diagnosed with ADHD and I’m probably on the (low end) of the autism spectrum, though there is no official diagnosis. This was during the time where I asked myself “who am I?”. Almost all my life I adjusted myself and my behaviour to fit the group I was currently in. So during this – ongoing – discovery, the topic of my gender surfaced too. I never considered myself masculine, even though I dress like that, even having a full beard.
Over time, I thought about it more and more and now I don’t know whether I am cis male, trans, non-binary or maybe agender. I talked to someone recently and they asked me whether I would push a button, if this would transform me. My answer was that I probably would push it quite easily, but that I didn’t know what the result of said transformation would be. That leads me to the conclusion that cis male is probably not the right description for me.All in all, with this account I want to see who I am.
This includes testing out my pronouns. I’m starting with “they/them”, those, and the name, are subject to change.Aside from that, I’m a software developer from the south of Germany and I like to do sports, read and on occasion do some photography.
@low hello Onyx!
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Hello, I’m Onyx (they/them),
for most of my life, I considered myself a cis man (to be fair, I never thought about it much). In recent years I had the time and mindset to work on my psyche. First I got diagnosed with ADHD and I’m probably on the (low end) of the autism spectrum, though there is no official diagnosis. This was during the time where I asked myself “who am I?”. Almost all my life I adjusted myself and my behaviour to fit the group I was currently in. So during this – ongoing – discovery, the topic of my gender surfaced too. I never considered myself masculine, even though I dress like that, even having a full beard.
Over time, I thought about it more and more and now I don’t know whether I am cis male, trans, non-binary or maybe agender. I talked to someone recently and they asked me whether I would push a button, if this would transform me. My answer was that I probably would push it quite easily, but that I didn’t know what the result of said transformation would be. That leads me to the conclusion that cis male is probably not the right description for me.All in all, with this account I want to see who I am.
This includes testing out my pronouns. I’m starting with “they/them”, those, and the name, are subject to change.Aside from that, I’m a software developer from the south of Germany and I like to do sports, read and on occasion do some photography.
@low hi Onyx

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Hello, I’m Onyx (they/them),
for most of my life, I considered myself a cis man (to be fair, I never thought about it much). In recent years I had the time and mindset to work on my psyche. First I got diagnosed with ADHD and I’m probably on the (low end) of the autism spectrum, though there is no official diagnosis. This was during the time where I asked myself “who am I?”. Almost all my life I adjusted myself and my behaviour to fit the group I was currently in. So during this – ongoing – discovery, the topic of my gender surfaced too. I never considered myself masculine, even though I dress like that, even having a full beard.
Over time, I thought about it more and more and now I don’t know whether I am cis male, trans, non-binary or maybe agender. I talked to someone recently and they asked me whether I would push a button, if this would transform me. My answer was that I probably would push it quite easily, but that I didn’t know what the result of said transformation would be. That leads me to the conclusion that cis male is probably not the right description for me.All in all, with this account I want to see who I am.
This includes testing out my pronouns. I’m starting with “they/them”, those, and the name, are subject to change.Aside from that, I’m a software developer from the south of Germany and I like to do sports, read and on occasion do some photography.
@low nice to meet you!
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