If you tended to perform better in school (K-12 or college) than many of your peers, how did you feel about letting your classmates know about your good grades?
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If you tended to perform better in school (K-12 or college) than many of your peers, how did you feel about letting your classmates know about your good grades?
I was homeschooled, so this is a college experience for me. I would deliberately not let people see my assignment or test grades especially if I heard people talking about how tough it was to get a good grade on something.
It felt really wrong to let on how well I was doing.
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If you tended to perform better in school (K-12 or college) than many of your peers, how did you feel about letting your classmates know about your good grades?
I was homeschooled, so this is a college experience for me. I would deliberately not let people see my assignment or test grades especially if I heard people talking about how tough it was to get a good grade on something.
It felt really wrong to let on how well I was doing.
@artemis no one really asked so it didn't come up
- Håvard
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If you tended to perform better in school (K-12 or college) than many of your peers, how did you feel about letting your classmates know about your good grades?
I was homeschooled, so this is a college experience for me. I would deliberately not let people see my assignment or test grades especially if I heard people talking about how tough it was to get a good grade on something.
It felt really wrong to let on how well I was doing.
@artemis I was absolutely insufferable about how easy school was for me when I was younger. Then puberty and ADHD happened and all of the sudden I had very little to brag about.
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If you tended to perform better in school (K-12 or college) than many of your peers, how did you feel about letting your classmates know about your good grades?
I was homeschooled, so this is a college experience for me. I would deliberately not let people see my assignment or test grades especially if I heard people talking about how tough it was to get a good grade on something.
It felt really wrong to let on how well I was doing.
Why did it feel like such a crime to be good at academic shit? I know I'm not the only one out there, because I know several of my family members are the same way, including my Mom & Dad.
I guess I didn't like how my peers responded when they saw how well I was doing. It's not like anyone said anything really rude or mean, but it just always seemed to be a downer & made socializing with people harder.
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If you tended to perform better in school (K-12 or college) than many of your peers, how did you feel about letting your classmates know about your good grades?
I was homeschooled, so this is a college experience for me. I would deliberately not let people see my assignment or test grades especially if I heard people talking about how tough it was to get a good grade on something.
It felt really wrong to let on how well I was doing.
@artemis
I am more likely to share unprompted if i had difficulty, and i might feel bad for barely trying and getting the best score, but i will always divulge that if asked.
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Why did it feel like such a crime to be good at academic shit? I know I'm not the only one out there, because I know several of my family members are the same way, including my Mom & Dad.
I guess I didn't like how my peers responded when they saw how well I was doing. It's not like anyone said anything really rude or mean, but it just always seemed to be a downer & made socializing with people harder.
It felt like being good at school made my peers think that I thought I was better than them, regardless of what I did or didn't have to say about it.
Being good at school seemed to be received as an almost hostile behavior. Sometimes people would respond as though I was harming them with my success. I dunno. It feels like showing a peer I got a really good grade on something difficult almost never had a positive outcome.
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Why did it feel like such a crime to be good at academic shit? I know I'm not the only one out there, because I know several of my family members are the same way, including my Mom & Dad.
I guess I didn't like how my peers responded when they saw how well I was doing. It's not like anyone said anything really rude or mean, but it just always seemed to be a downer & made socializing with people harder.
@artemis I realized rather too late that at around age 12 I started dumbing down my speech, because classmates said I talked too much like a grownup. So I added slang and used more common words and expressions. I think this later affected my high school grades in classes with a discussion component.
The end result was that classmates in late high school and university assumed I wasn't a good student, unless they saw my grade on a test or essay. My desire to fit in by sounding like everyone else resulted in me appearing unintelligent.
It's too bad, but I did what I thought I had to do at the time.
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If you tended to perform better in school (K-12 or college) than many of your peers, how did you feel about letting your classmates know about your good grades?
I was homeschooled, so this is a college experience for me. I would deliberately not let people see my assignment or test grades especially if I heard people talking about how tough it was to get a good grade on something.
It felt really wrong to let on how well I was doing.
@artemis I was bullied as a kid, and the way I fought back was crushing it academically and rubbing my peers’ faces in it. This probably led to a vicious cycle of bullying, but they were going to do it anyway.
I was so insufferable that the school admin/teachers promoted me into middle school a year early, hoping to humble me somewhat. It didn’t work.
I got tall in high school and found a friend group. The bullying tapered off, but not my attitude. I was an angry kid.
Spent the summer after my junior year in and out of the hospital with cancer. The experience changed my life direction for the better and put me on the track I am now. Certainly I needed something radical, but I would not recommend it to others.
