TRANS PEOPLE
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@mallory_sinn@hachyderm.io mmm
well, cracked on new year between 2021 and 2022
begin transitioning - eh, depending on the definition late 2022, mid-2023, or even 2014-2015
come out - depending on who it is, can be 2022, 2023, any later date or never
didn't vote anything because none of the choices fit@alice yeah, just aiming for beginning of the journey here, whichever comes first
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@alice yeah, just aiming for beginning of the journey here, whichever comes first
@mallory_sinn@hachyderm.io well, that's the thing here - I don't know
like, I started modifying my appearance to lean fem way years before I cracked and without necessarily realizing it was fem -
TRANS PEOPLE
Totally unscientific survey of transition demographics on the fediverse, for transgender, non-binary, and gender diverse people.
What year did you either come out, begin transition, and/or have your egg crack?
@mallory_sinn It's not as simple as that with me. Back in 2012 I had a shrink interview and a formal diagnosis, but I didn't transition and didn't get the trans pathway info. I got onto that pathway in 2022 and completed transitioning in 2023 ... so I could tave ticked three different boxes!
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TRANS PEOPLE
Totally unscientific survey of transition demographics on the fediverse, for transgender, non-binary, and gender diverse people.
What year did you either come out, begin transition, and/or have your egg crack?
@mallory_sinn Hm. I am sorta in the always knew cohort, but the "oh, that's a thing i can do" moment was in 2017. Which is my vote.
Committed to it by 2019.
And several technical derails later, started HRT in 2022.
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@mallory_sinn I started transition and hormones in 2014.
@Melezioh I had actually wanted to do one more option for 2010 - 2015 because I think that’s another distinct cohort (but the poll only allowed me 4 options here). That’s the cohort a lot of my favorite trans writers and artists come from, and it marked a change where trans people started socially hanging out and going out together more, from what I understand. It’s a period I think a lot of newer trans folks don’t understand as being so pivotal to where our community is now.
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TRANS PEOPLE
Totally unscientific survey of transition demographics on the fediverse, for transgender, non-binary, and gender diverse people.
What year did you either come out, begin transition, and/or have your egg crack?
Cracked in 2019....
came out to wife a few months laterCame out to my parents 2024 .. started transition in 2024.
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@mallory_sinn hmm i picked the earliest one but i didn't think i was going to pursue any medical transition for about five years and since instead of an egg crack i had a slow drip of molasses for many years before that, i picked the year i found words for it and came out
@forestine slow drip of molasses is a great metaphor! That was me 2012 - 2019, until a full on egg cracking and no going back. Like, reading about Laura Jane Grace coming out…it caused something to click in my brain that slowly dripped and pooled. Then my roommate came out, and bit more dripping. And just small things building ever so slowly to finally get through to me
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Cracked in 2019....
came out to wife a few months laterCame out to my parents 2024 .. started transition in 2024.
@Millie glad you’re fully coming into yourself now
But also hugs offered because I imagine five years of living with the knowledge and being unable to fully embrace yourself yet must have been hard 🫂
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Please boost above! And please check above poll if you’re following #transgender #trans #transfem #transmasc #nonbinary #enby #TGD #queer
For clarity, the idea is to capture when you began your current gender journey/endeavors, and what trans cohort you feel the most belonging to. I know a lot of folks don’t fit easily into one or the other, and that’s great too! Just limited options for this poll.
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@brooke did you just ignore or deny your egg cracking moments before? Or was it something else?
@mallory_sinn denial's not just a river in egypt
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@mallory_sinn denial's not just a river in egypt
@mallory_sinn (so...)
as a 10 year old kid staring down the wrong puberty i didn't feel i could do *anything* about it at the time, so i just packed it deep down and told nobody
in my 20s i experimented privately with crossdressing and knew Something Was Up but didn't know what to do about it and stuffed it back down
in my 40s i had a crisis of burnout and depression and knew i needed to start facing my shit. i put in the work on my emotions and gained the psychological safety to come out
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@mallory_sinn (so...)
as a 10 year old kid staring down the wrong puberty i didn't feel i could do *anything* about it at the time, so i just packed it deep down and told nobody
in my 20s i experimented privately with crossdressing and knew Something Was Up but didn't know what to do about it and stuffed it back down
in my 40s i had a crisis of burnout and depression and knew i needed to start facing my shit. i put in the work on my emotions and gained the psychological safety to come out
@mallory_sinn for folks with trauma or personality/mood disorders who have STRONG EMOTIONS and have trouble handling their shit: DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) is fucken great
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@Millie glad you’re fully coming into yourself now
But also hugs offered because I imagine five years of living with the knowledge and being unable to fully embrace yourself yet must have been hard 🫂
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@mallory_sinn well there's a toughie
first egg crack: 1989
second egg crack: 2006
final egg crack: 2020 <- i voted here
came out: 2023
started transitioning: 2024@brooke @mallory_sinn yeah, I kinda first experimented in like 2014, but then got distracted by life and didn't think about it until 2017 and didn't transition until 2021
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TRANS PEOPLE
Totally unscientific survey of transition demographics on the fediverse, for transgender, non-binary, and gender diverse people.
What year did you either come out, begin transition, and/or have your egg crack?
~2003 - first questioned if I might be trans
2021 - said out loud that I was trans and started transition (what I chose)Somewhere in between, I think it became clear to me that I probably was trans, but I don't know when, and there was always some part of me that clung to denial and avoidance.
I've been thinking about this recently because the fifth anniversary is coming up
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TRANS PEOPLE
Totally unscientific survey of transition demographics on the fediverse, for transgender, non-binary, and gender diverse people.
What year did you either come out, begin transition, and/or have your egg crack?
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TRANS PEOPLE
Totally unscientific survey of transition demographics on the fediverse, for transgender, non-binary, and gender diverse people.
What year did you either come out, begin transition, and/or have your egg crack?
@mallory_sinn two egg cracks and one coming out all pre-2015, so that's what I selected. Didn't start transition itself until 2021 tho.
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TRANS PEOPLE
Totally unscientific survey of transition demographics on the fediverse, for transgender, non-binary, and gender diverse people.
What year did you either come out, begin transition, and/or have your egg crack?
My egg cracked in 1997.
I started transitioning in 2019.
I publicly came out in 2022.So... three out of four?
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TRANS PEOPLE
Totally unscientific survey of transition demographics on the fediverse, for transgender, non-binary, and gender diverse people.
What year did you either come out, begin transition, and/or have your egg crack?
@mallory_sinn See, my egg cracked long before I got HRT. If we're going by egg cracking, I've known I was trans for a decade longer. I don't think people realise just how much of us knew when we were children but had to bury that shit deep and suffer in ways that scar us for the rest of our lives until the second the clock strikes midnight on our 18th birthday.
I figured out I was trans in 2009. I got on HRT in 2017. I'm not even sure if I had accepting parents at the time if I could've started in 2009. I sure as fuck couldn't now.
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@mallory_sinn See, my egg cracked long before I got HRT. If we're going by egg cracking, I've known I was trans for a decade longer. I don't think people realise just how much of us knew when we were children but had to bury that shit deep and suffer in ways that scar us for the rest of our lives until the second the clock strikes midnight on our 18th birthday.
I figured out I was trans in 2009. I got on HRT in 2017. I'm not even sure if I had accepting parents at the time if I could've started in 2009. I sure as fuck couldn't now.
@mallory_sinn I picked 2016-2019 because that's when all three was true. I'd been out "full time" for six months at that point.
I also feel it's worth pointing out nearly every person I know who "hatched" recently has later told me they started to remember even earlier signs they were trans. Who woulda thunk that the human brain famous for blocking access to traumatic memories would block out the number of times their parents said shit like "I'ma beat your ass if you keep doing this queer shit" about expressing potentially being trans.
