Did you know you can have friends who are losers?
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Did you know you can have friends who are losers? It's fine. It's great, even. They're great. You don't need impressive friends. That's foolish. Losers make excellent friends.
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Did you know you can have friends who are losers? It's fine. It's great, even. They're great. You don't need impressive friends. That's foolish. Losers make excellent friends.
I have lost two friends over the last year or so. Were they losers? No! Both were emotionally stunted and conventionally successful. They were also boring as shit.
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I have lost two friends over the last year or so. Were they losers? No! Both were emotionally stunted and conventionally successful. They were also boring as shit.
As someone who makes what I consider to be perfectly normal compromises all the time for the sake of my happiness and sanity, my patience is very limited for nominal adults who bitch for hours about status signifiers at rarefied brass-ring prestige jobs or trivial and frivolous dating dealbreakers. Just have a weird, messy life, dawg. Nobody cares. You will die sad.
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As someone who makes what I consider to be perfectly normal compromises all the time for the sake of my happiness and sanity, my patience is very limited for nominal adults who bitch for hours about status signifiers at rarefied brass-ring prestige jobs or trivial and frivolous dating dealbreakers. Just have a weird, messy life, dawg. Nobody cares. You will die sad.
I went on a walk in the woods with my kids and a longtime buddy of mine, and the whole time, literally the whole time, he talked about what a massive sacrifice to his sense of self it was to leave a Very Big Important Lawyer Job to go to another, slightly less prestigious Very Big Important Lawyer Job and how people would never respect him again. My son caught a minnow. My daughter saw maybe her first butterfly. And this guy just could not shut the fuck up about how he was going to be a pariah forever for becoming in-house counsel at a fancy company earning more than I make in two years. I wanted to stab him.
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Did you know you can have friends who are losers? It's fine. It's great, even. They're great. You don't need impressive friends. That's foolish. Losers make excellent friends.
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"Get in, loser. We're friends" -
I went on a walk in the woods with my kids and a longtime buddy of mine, and the whole time, literally the whole time, he talked about what a massive sacrifice to his sense of self it was to leave a Very Big Important Lawyer Job to go to another, slightly less prestigious Very Big Important Lawyer Job and how people would never respect him again. My son caught a minnow. My daughter saw maybe her first butterfly. And this guy just could not shut the fuck up about how he was going to be a pariah forever for becoming in-house counsel at a fancy company earning more than I make in two years. I wanted to stab him.
Meanwhile, my buddy who went crazy and now lives in a cabin in the woods shows up to the biweekly Shadowdark sessions every single time. He brings snacks. He needs and entertains us, and we love and support him.
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I went on a walk in the woods with my kids and a longtime buddy of mine, and the whole time, literally the whole time, he talked about what a massive sacrifice to his sense of self it was to leave a Very Big Important Lawyer Job to go to another, slightly less prestigious Very Big Important Lawyer Job and how people would never respect him again. My son caught a minnow. My daughter saw maybe her first butterfly. And this guy just could not shut the fuck up about how he was going to be a pariah forever for becoming in-house counsel at a fancy company earning more than I make in two years. I wanted to stab him.
I have a very pre-DTMFA approach to friends and family. I can't think of anyone whom I have affirmatively cut out of my life. I enjoy people who, like me, cling tight to their bullshit like a dog mangling the leg of a mail carrier. One of my friends is obsessed with soccer performance metrics and modeling team cohesion stuff, and I love hearing him out. Another is a theologian who is now a crazy person living in a cabin in the woods, and he will teach me fabulous things about Gnosticism on a seemingly unbreakable monologue until I tap out. These are not easy friends to have or keep, but I do it because it's so worthwhile. But it's hard to sustain that commitment for someone whose overriding favorite topic is themselves.
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