<![CDATA[I'm curious about the intersection between autistic folks here and #ENM (Ethical Non Monogamy).]]>I'm curious about the intersection between autistic folks here and (Ethical Non Monogamy).

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/topic/5ae34122-045c-48c8-82c0-af0846bc1c08/i-m-curious-about-the-intersection-between-autistic-folks-here-and-enm-ethical-non-monogamy-.RSS for NodeFri, 15 May 2026 07:38:24 GMTWed, 13 May 2026 14:55:30 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to I'm curious about the intersection between autistic folks here and #ENM (Ethical Non Monogamy). on Thu, 14 May 2026 13:05:04 GMT]]>@minego also, your poll responders are majority autistic, which makes me question selection and priming.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mas.to/users/iwein/statuses/116573071267884218https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mas.to/users/iwein/statuses/116573071267884218Thu, 14 May 2026 13:05:04 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I'm curious about the intersection between autistic folks here and #ENM (Ethical Non Monogamy). on Thu, 14 May 2026 12:07:37 GMT]]>I know this isn't a very large sample size, but it seems from this that autistic folks are more than twice as likely to practice ENM.

That matches my own observations very closely too.

Anyway, I thought it was an interesting correlation.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://pdx.social/users/minego/statuses/116572845339743031https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://pdx.social/users/minego/statuses/116572845339743031Thu, 14 May 2026 12:07:37 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I'm curious about the intersection between autistic folks here and #ENM (Ethical Non Monogamy). on Thu, 14 May 2026 08:45:50 GMT]]>@minego Autistic, technically never been monogamous. Learned about poly thanks to furries and the Internet before my first relationship. I currently only have one major partner (and one formerly major partner I am in somewhat less contact with these days) but sie has many partners hirself and I am open to more and am meeting/flirting with people. (I am also aromantic so I sometimes get weird about getting closer to people and it can take me a while.)

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://meemu.org/users/Bel_tamtu/statuses/116572051897246131https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://meemu.org/users/Bel_tamtu/statuses/116572051897246131Thu, 14 May 2026 08:45:50 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I'm curious about the intersection between autistic folks here and #ENM (Ethical Non Monogamy). on Wed, 13 May 2026 21:59:49 GMT]]>@minego i put do not practice but I wouldn’t object if a partner needed it. I’m just single af

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://hachyderm.io/users/gemini6ice/statuses/116569511666745866https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://hachyderm.io/users/gemini6ice/statuses/116569511666745866Wed, 13 May 2026 21:59:49 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I'm curious about the intersection between autistic folks here and #ENM (Ethical Non Monogamy). on Wed, 13 May 2026 20:22:31 GMT]]>@minego

Pretty much.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodon.social/users/Energetic_Nova/statuses/116569129076624806https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodon.social/users/Energetic_Nova/statuses/116569129076624806Wed, 13 May 2026 20:22:31 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I'm curious about the intersection between autistic folks here and #ENM (Ethical Non Monogamy). on Wed, 13 May 2026 20:22:14 GMT]]>@dyani I wish that for all of us!

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://pdx.social/users/minego/statuses/116569127969187255https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://pdx.social/users/minego/statuses/116569127969187255Wed, 13 May 2026 20:22:14 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I'm curious about the intersection between autistic folks here and #ENM (Ethical Non Monogamy). on Wed, 13 May 2026 20:21:36 GMT]]>@Energetic_Nova I'm sorry to hear that, but it sounds like she is lucky to have an understanding and supportive partner to help.

The E in ENM is the most important part.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://pdx.social/users/minego/statuses/116569125469794519https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://pdx.social/users/minego/statuses/116569125469794519Wed, 13 May 2026 20:21:36 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I'm curious about the intersection between autistic folks here and #ENM (Ethical Non Monogamy). on Wed, 13 May 2026 20:18:59 GMT]]>@Energetic_Nova Thanks. I think my biggest take away from this is that we tend to be more willing to reject the default assumptions about what relationships are and what is and isn't okay in a relationship.

That can take countless different forms though, and the beautiful thing about that is that it can more properly fit the needs and desires of the people in a relationship.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://pdx.social/users/minego/statuses/116569115195285876https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://pdx.social/users/minego/statuses/116569115195285876Wed, 13 May 2026 20:18:59 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I'm curious about the intersection between autistic folks here and #ENM (Ethical Non Monogamy). on Wed, 13 May 2026 20:18:58 GMT]]>@minego

There is basically one trans woman I would trust her with and that person is firm on the no relationships ever cause she trusts no one. Adore and trust her tho. Cause she has strong consent language.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodon.social/users/Energetic_Nova/statuses/116569115120290118https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodon.social/users/Energetic_Nova/statuses/116569115120290118Wed, 13 May 2026 20:18:58 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I'm curious about the intersection between autistic folks here and #ENM (Ethical Non Monogamy). on Wed, 13 May 2026 20:17:27 GMT]]>@minego @AutisticDoctorStruggles that's so awesome to hear. I'm happy for you two. I wish I hadn't been born into a life that gave me so much trauma I have to willingly fix within myself in order to experience fuller happiness

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://social.coop/users/dyani/statuses/116569109118571352https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://social.coop/users/dyani/statuses/116569109118571352Wed, 13 May 2026 20:17:27 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I'm curious about the intersection between autistic folks here and #ENM (Ethical Non Monogamy). on Wed, 13 May 2026 20:17:19 GMT]]>@minego

Certain people dont know how to gain consent from my partner. Her history of being abused as a child is relevant to the current decision.

People dont mean to. She is just naturally pleasing as a person and it stops being ethical.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodon.social/users/Energetic_Nova/statuses/116569108596356301https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodon.social/users/Energetic_Nova/statuses/116569108596356301Wed, 13 May 2026 20:17:19 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I'm curious about the intersection between autistic folks here and #ENM (Ethical Non Monogamy). on Wed, 13 May 2026 20:14:53 GMT]]>@minego

Yeah. Im clicked no and autistic. Cause it been a while. And I am less open do to other people. Not anything my partner has done. I would allow her with a trusted trans woman but I am protective of her from certain jackass forces.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodon.social/users/Energetic_Nova/statuses/116569099054809975https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodon.social/users/Energetic_Nova/statuses/116569099054809975Wed, 13 May 2026 20:14:53 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I'm curious about the intersection between autistic folks here and #ENM (Ethical Non Monogamy). on Wed, 13 May 2026 20:12:13 GMT]]>@Energetic_Nova My goal was to learn more about how people feel about relationships, especially around sex, more than about what people are currently actually doing.

So, yeah, I think that counts.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://pdx.social/users/minego/statuses/116569088536344761https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://pdx.social/users/minego/statuses/116569088536344761Wed, 13 May 2026 20:12:13 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I'm curious about the intersection between autistic folks here and #ENM (Ethical Non Monogamy). on Wed, 13 May 2026 20:10:18 GMT]]>@mxjaygrant A handful of people have said similar things.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://pdx.social/users/minego/statuses/116569081045180592https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://pdx.social/users/minego/statuses/116569081045180592Wed, 13 May 2026 20:10:18 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I'm curious about the intersection between autistic folks here and #ENM (Ethical Non Monogamy). on Wed, 13 May 2026 20:08:57 GMT]]>@minego

If there was a used to button, would have clicked that. But we are just so much lazier in our 30’s.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodon.social/users/Energetic_Nova/statuses/116569075688425427https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodon.social/users/Energetic_Nova/statuses/116569075688425427Wed, 13 May 2026 20:08:57 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I'm curious about the intersection between autistic folks here and #ENM (Ethical Non Monogamy). on Wed, 13 May 2026 20:04:44 GMT]]>@minego autistic and ENM in theory but also moderately/severely disabled and mono in practice because I don't have the energy for more than one romantic relationship at a time

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://triangletoot.party/users/mxjaygrant/statuses/116569059146784111https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://triangletoot.party/users/mxjaygrant/statuses/116569059146784111Wed, 13 May 2026 20:04:44 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I'm curious about the intersection between autistic folks here and #ENM (Ethical Non Monogamy). on Wed, 13 May 2026 17:21:53 GMT]]>@AutisticDoctorStruggles It has also allowed us both to be so much more open and honest with each other. For so long we avoided talking about any desires or needs that could possibly trigger jealousy.

But, now that we understand that we both feel the same and that we have ways to explore these feelings and desires safely, we can be more open.

@dyani

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://pdx.social/users/minego/statuses/116568418792753587https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://pdx.social/users/minego/statuses/116568418792753587Wed, 13 May 2026 17:21:53 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I'm curious about the intersection between autistic folks here and #ENM (Ethical Non Monogamy). on Wed, 13 May 2026 17:17:08 GMT]]>@minego I am really happy fo you both! Great that it has been so enriching 😊@dyani

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mas.to/users/AutisticDoctorStruggles/statuses/116568400102295960https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mas.to/users/AutisticDoctorStruggles/statuses/116568400102295960Wed, 13 May 2026 17:17:08 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I'm curious about the intersection between autistic folks here and #ENM (Ethical Non Monogamy). on Wed, 13 May 2026 17:13:16 GMT]]>@AutisticDoctorStruggles
@dyani It has been really amazing!

It lets us be very confident and direct in ways that we could normally never do. It has let us both understand ourselves so much better.

Watching my partner finding her confidence has been so amazing.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://pdx.social/users/minego/statuses/116568384918670113https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://pdx.social/users/minego/statuses/116568384918670113Wed, 13 May 2026 17:13:16 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I'm curious about the intersection between autistic folks here and #ENM (Ethical Non Monogamy). on Wed, 13 May 2026 17:02:41 GMT]]>@minego @dyani that sounds like an awesome solution for you! ☺️

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mas.to/users/AutisticDoctorStruggles/statuses/116568343303935933https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mas.to/users/AutisticDoctorStruggles/statuses/116568343303935933Wed, 13 May 2026 17:02:41 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I'm curious about the intersection between autistic folks here and #ENM (Ethical Non Monogamy). on Wed, 13 May 2026 16:45:46 GMT]]>@AutisticDoctorStruggles
@dyani My partner and I have mostly had relationships with other couples, where the boundaries are very clear.

Everyone involved has a primary committed partner, and a clear understanding of what everyone else wants from the relationship.

It has allowed us to be social in a more controlled and predictable way, and we can step away when one or both of us needs a break.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://pdx.social/users/minego/statuses/116568276741520991https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://pdx.social/users/minego/statuses/116568276741520991Wed, 13 May 2026 16:45:46 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I'm curious about the intersection between autistic folks here and #ENM (Ethical Non Monogamy). on Wed, 13 May 2026 16:38:10 GMT]]>@minego @dyani I also think ND folk are maybe more open, as I don't think we usually see any moral objections to ENM. I certainly don't. For me personally I can't imagine really "dealing" with multiple people and making sure all parts are well-communicated to and happy, my personal limiting factor would be social battery. So I am very happy in a relationship that's monogamous as agreed on by both parts 😊

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mas.to/users/AutisticDoctorStruggles/statuses/116568246852605943https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mas.to/users/AutisticDoctorStruggles/statuses/116568246852605943Wed, 13 May 2026 16:38:10 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I'm curious about the intersection between autistic folks here and #ENM (Ethical Non Monogamy). on Wed, 13 May 2026 16:05:18 GMT]]>@foolishowl and, I hope it goes without saying but I will anyway, choosing not to for any reason is absolutely and entirely valid.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://pdx.social/users/minego/statuses/116568117657228341https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://pdx.social/users/minego/statuses/116568117657228341Wed, 13 May 2026 16:05:18 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I'm curious about the intersection between autistic folks here and #ENM (Ethical Non Monogamy). on Wed, 13 May 2026 15:58:58 GMT]]>@foolishowl There are many forms of relationships that fit under the ENM umbrella. Not all relationships need that, as long as all parties know what the relationship is and agree to it.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://pdx.social/users/minego/statuses/116568092752069311https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://pdx.social/users/minego/statuses/116568092752069311Wed, 13 May 2026 15:58:58 GMT