<![CDATA[I've had an overwhelmingly positive response to my recent name change, primarily to align with my agender gender identity.]]>I've had an overwhelmingly positive response to my recent name change, primarily to align with my agender gender identity. I am so grateful for this! ❣️

However, there was one glaring exception. My best friend that I've known for 20 years took it extremely poorly. Her points:
* I am out of control and making very bad decisions.
* As a parent, she believes parents have an indelible right for their children to keep the name they were assigned by them.
* It is against her religion to change names.

It also came up she was not understanding the whole difference between sex assigned at birth and gender identity, and that body parts do not define your gender.

I'm pretty sure I just lost my best friend from this, and am still processing it. But I won't stop this change, because it is right for me.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/topic/43fb81cc-caf9-4787-9996-26ab67f62f9f/i-ve-had-an-overwhelmingly-positive-response-to-my-recent-name-change-primarily-to-align-with-my-agender-gender-identity.RSS for NodeMon, 06 Apr 2026 14:48:27 GMTWed, 01 Apr 2026 13:12:22 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to I've had an overwhelmingly positive response to my recent name change, primarily to align with my agender gender identity. on Wed, 01 Apr 2026 15:21:35 GMT]]>@electropict Thank you for sharing this insight. Yes, she does identify as Christian.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://lgbtqia.space/ap/users/116323610496872235/statuses/116330128674657089https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://lgbtqia.space/ap/users/116323610496872235/statuses/116330128674657089Wed, 01 Apr 2026 15:21:35 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I've had an overwhelmingly positive response to my recent name change, primarily to align with my agender gender identity. on Wed, 01 Apr 2026 15:20:43 GMT]]>@oddtail I appreciate your kind and thoughtfully shared words!

And thanks; I'm glad to hear I chose a nice agender name. πŸ˜€

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://lgbtqia.space/ap/users/116323610496872235/statuses/116330125293843436https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://lgbtqia.space/ap/users/116323610496872235/statuses/116330125293843436Wed, 01 Apr 2026 15:20:43 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I've had an overwhelmingly positive response to my recent name change, primarily to align with my agender gender identity. on Wed, 01 Apr 2026 15:19:05 GMT]]>@alexadeswift Very eloquently stated, Alexa!

We had avoided this landmine so long that I thought I knew where I would stand with her.

The cool thing on the name change was with my aunt. She said it would be difficult to change, but she will make an effort because it's important to me. I appreciate her so much for that! And something like this is what I had anticipated from my BF.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://lgbtqia.space/ap/users/116323610496872235/statuses/116330118879751706https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://lgbtqia.space/ap/users/116323610496872235/statuses/116330118879751706Wed, 01 Apr 2026 15:19:05 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I've had an overwhelmingly positive response to my recent name change, primarily to align with my agender gender identity. on Wed, 01 Apr 2026 15:16:48 GMT]]>@AncTreat5358 it's against HER religion for YOU to change names?!

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://social.tchncs.de/users/fishidwardrobe/statuses/116330109902467482https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://social.tchncs.de/users/fishidwardrobe/statuses/116330109902467482Wed, 01 Apr 2026 15:16:48 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I've had an overwhelmingly positive response to my recent name change, primarily to align with my agender gender identity. on Wed, 01 Apr 2026 15:16:38 GMT]]>@webhat Thanks so much! ❣️

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://lgbtqia.space/ap/users/116323610496872235/statuses/116330109215276203https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://lgbtqia.space/ap/users/116323610496872235/statuses/116330109215276203Wed, 01 Apr 2026 15:16:38 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I've had an overwhelmingly positive response to my recent name change, primarily to align with my agender gender identity. on Wed, 01 Apr 2026 15:16:25 GMT]]>@moonrabbit Thank you Laen!

And definitely, especially when it's out of character for her.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://lgbtqia.space/ap/users/116323610496872235/statuses/116330108388276111https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://lgbtqia.space/ap/users/116323610496872235/statuses/116330108388276111Wed, 01 Apr 2026 15:16:25 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I've had an overwhelmingly positive response to my recent name change, primarily to align with my agender gender identity. on Wed, 01 Apr 2026 15:15:48 GMT]]>@dillyd Well said.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://lgbtqia.space/ap/users/116323610496872235/statuses/116330105942943497https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://lgbtqia.space/ap/users/116323610496872235/statuses/116330105942943497Wed, 01 Apr 2026 15:15:48 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I've had an overwhelmingly positive response to my recent name change, primarily to align with my agender gender identity. on Wed, 01 Apr 2026 15:02:51 GMT]]>@AncTreat5358 You have to do what is right for you.

As a parent, I only want the best for my offspring. My 25YO is non-binary, and they changed their assigned name partly because it became associated with a terrorist organisation, but mainly because of their newly discovered identity. They have their own mind, and own view of the world: they're still my child, they're still loved, but I don't own them. I can't understand why any parent wouldn't feel the same.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://autistics.life/users/cybervegan/statuses/116330055024553995https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://autistics.life/users/cybervegan/statuses/116330055024553995Wed, 01 Apr 2026 15:02:51 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I've had an overwhelmingly positive response to my recent name change, primarily to align with my agender gender identity. on Wed, 01 Apr 2026 14:58:56 GMT]]>@AncTreat5358 oh wow! That's a lot to deal with, and I'm sorry you're having to deal with that. I feel bad for her kids who will have to work through all that as they get older. I never felt like my kid's name belonged to me. I gave him a name because he couldn't when he was born but he went through multiple names before landing on the one that fit for him. I'm happy he felt good about experimenting and figuring it out with my spouse and I.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastoart.social/ap/users/115662356817100195/statuses/116330039650660865https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastoart.social/ap/users/115662356817100195/statuses/116330039650660865Wed, 01 Apr 2026 14:58:56 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I've had an overwhelmingly positive response to my recent name change, primarily to align with my agender gender identity. on Wed, 01 Apr 2026 14:51:40 GMT]]>@AncTreat5358 That must be really hard for you, but good on you for doing what's right for you! ❀️

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://beige.party/users/miffyhelen/statuses/116330011088728770https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://beige.party/users/miffyhelen/statuses/116330011088728770Wed, 01 Apr 2026 14:51:40 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I've had an overwhelmingly positive response to my recent name change, primarily to align with my agender gender identity. on Wed, 01 Apr 2026 14:26:46 GMT]]>@AncTreat5358 that's hard.
Sorry your friend couldn't actually support you.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mstdn.social/users/colo_lee/statuses/116329913123288550https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mstdn.social/users/colo_lee/statuses/116329913123288550Wed, 01 Apr 2026 14:26:46 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I've had an overwhelmingly positive response to my recent name change, primarily to align with my agender gender identity. on Wed, 01 Apr 2026 13:51:41 GMT]]>@AncTreat5358

One, I am so sorry that you had to experience that reaction πŸ’”

Two, "out of control" for something like a name change is... I don't even have the words.

Three, it's her religion? Cool. Good thing it's not your religion, or it would be in any way relevant...

And Alex sounds like a pretty good agender name!

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://meow.social/users/oddtail/statuses/116329775191684085https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://meow.social/users/oddtail/statuses/116329775191684085Wed, 01 Apr 2026 13:51:41 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I've had an overwhelmingly positive response to my recent name change, primarily to align with my agender gender identity. on Wed, 01 Apr 2026 13:48:52 GMT]]>@AncTreat5358

As sad as this is:

Those that matter don't mind
Those that mind don't matter

The loss us hers, and the gain yours, as her behaviour is indicative of negative attitudes that you may previously been unaware if.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://lgbtqia.space/users/alexadeswift/statuses/116329764130121959https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://lgbtqia.space/users/alexadeswift/statuses/116329764130121959Wed, 01 Apr 2026 13:48:52 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I've had an overwhelmingly positive response to my recent name change, primarily to align with my agender gender identity. on Wed, 01 Apr 2026 13:40:23 GMT]]>@AncTreat5358 congratulations on the name change! πŸ’œ

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://infosec.exchange/users/webhat/statuses/116329730797342002https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://infosec.exchange/users/webhat/statuses/116329730797342002Wed, 01 Apr 2026 13:40:23 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I've had an overwhelmingly positive response to my recent name change, primarily to align with my agender gender identity. on Wed, 01 Apr 2026 13:30:05 GMT]]>@AncTreat5358
congratulations on your new name! ✨

but oh goodness, i'm sorry. that kind of rigidity won't help anyone

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://sunny.garden/users/moonrabbit/statuses/116329690252712862https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://sunny.garden/users/moonrabbit/statuses/116329690252712862Wed, 01 Apr 2026 13:30:05 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I've had an overwhelmingly positive response to my recent name change, primarily to align with my agender gender identity. on Wed, 01 Apr 2026 13:28:08 GMT]]>@AncTreat5358
That's sad. I feel bad for you but even more so for her kids.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://turtleisland.social/users/dillyd/statuses/116329682574628022https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://turtleisland.social/users/dillyd/statuses/116329682574628022Wed, 01 Apr 2026 13:28:08 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I've had an overwhelmingly positive response to my recent name change, primarily to align with my agender gender identity. on Wed, 01 Apr 2026 13:15:43 GMT]]>@setmeravelles Thank you, Pablo. Yeah, I never thought such a kind person could pour out such intolerance, especially over something that really doesn't impact her beyond calling me by my name.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://lgbtqia.space/ap/users/116323610496872235/statuses/116329633789706847https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://lgbtqia.space/ap/users/116323610496872235/statuses/116329633789706847Wed, 01 Apr 2026 13:15:43 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I've had an overwhelmingly positive response to my recent name change, primarily to align with my agender gender identity. on Wed, 01 Apr 2026 13:14:06 GMT]]>@AncTreat5358 πŸ«‚πŸ«‚πŸ«‚ I am so sorry you had to deal with that β€œfriend”.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://lgbtqia.space/ap/users/115600335460218233/statuses/116329627414358645https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://lgbtqia.space/ap/users/115600335460218233/statuses/116329627414358645Wed, 01 Apr 2026 13:14:06 GMT