<![CDATA[I'm not sure the best way to address this]]>I'm not sure the best way to address this.
Maybe there isn't a good way.
I get lots of private messages asking for money.
I would help everyone if I could but I can't and I don't.
If I restrict the private messages I will miss connections I don't want to miss so maybe it is just a consequence of being here.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/topic/2aa169fe-2cf0-48eb-a988-11b7cda9f4fe/i-m-not-sure-the-best-way-to-address-thisRSS for NodeFri, 15 May 2026 06:07:39 GMTMon, 04 May 2026 22:57:24 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to I'm not sure the best way to address this on Tue, 05 May 2026 11:07:12 GMT]]>@Parker51 @NorcalGma2 I agree that my reply was too general. It was hasty as I was shutting everything down to go to bed. Of course, we should have empathy and help those in need if we can. And not all people asking for money are terrible. (1/2)

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://toot.community/users/j258853/statuses/116521646958470612https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://toot.community/users/j258853/statuses/116521646958470612Tue, 05 May 2026 11:07:12 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I'm not sure the best way to address this on Tue, 05 May 2026 11:07:12 GMT]]>I was so focused on the fact that Gma is a very giving and compassionate person and she posts a lot about her giving to the food pantry and donating to organizations. So she is a prime candidate for people trying to take advantage of that.
But, I also know that Gma is wise and she can decide if any request is sincere. But, as she said, the requests get tiring and I can understand that.
Thanks for the responses. (2/2)
@Parker51 @NorcalGma2

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://toot.community/users/j258853/statuses/116521646979941293https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://toot.community/users/j258853/statuses/116521646979941293Tue, 05 May 2026 11:07:12 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I'm not sure the best way to address this on Tue, 05 May 2026 07:39:11 GMT]]>@NorcalGma2

Just ignore them.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodon.social/users/hadon/statuses/116520829012887129https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodon.social/users/hadon/statuses/116520829012887129Tue, 05 May 2026 07:39:11 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I'm not sure the best way to address this on Tue, 05 May 2026 07:06:01 GMT]]>@Parker51 @NorcalGma2 @j258853 I agree. Of course you can restrict your DMs, mute or block accounts. But I beg everybody not to report Gaza accounts - often this is the only helpline left for them. If they loose their account it creates more problems. Most of them are getting desperate - since the so called cease fire donations have dried up but the amount of help getting into Gaza is minimal and the commercial goods Israel allows in are extremely expensive.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://zirk.us/users/SusanneDoering/statuses/116520698597515296https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://zirk.us/users/SusanneDoering/statuses/116520698597515296Tue, 05 May 2026 07:06:01 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I'm not sure the best way to address this on Tue, 05 May 2026 06:26:29 GMT]]>@NorcalGma2 @Michigander (P.S. I definitely won't ask for money. I definitely will pet Summer if you approve.)

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://c.im/users/msbellows/statuses/116520543179179816https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://c.im/users/msbellows/statuses/116520543179179816Tue, 05 May 2026 06:26:29 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I'm not sure the best way to address this on Tue, 05 May 2026 06:25:34 GMT]]>@NorcalGma2 @Michigander I'm driving to Mendo in a couple weeks for an old mentor's funeral. Are you on my way? I'd love to meet you irl (and eat scones!).

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://c.im/users/msbellows/statuses/116520539543468532https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://c.im/users/msbellows/statuses/116520539543468532Tue, 05 May 2026 06:25:34 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I'm not sure the best way to address this on Tue, 05 May 2026 06:12:15 GMT]]>@Michigander
I wish you were closer. I need people that aren't watching their calories or cholesterol to want my scones so I can bake more.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://sfba.social/users/NorcalGma2/statuses/116520487196214684https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://sfba.social/users/NorcalGma2/statuses/116520487196214684Tue, 05 May 2026 06:12:15 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I'm not sure the best way to address this on Tue, 05 May 2026 06:10:39 GMT]]>@NorcalGma2 @j258853 My comment was directed to JJ. My app automatically puts everybody else in there too. Don't get me wrong, it's fine to block those requests, genuine or not. But to call everybody asking for help terrible, really rubs me the wrong way. His comment was the first I saw. I was abhorred that so many other commenters had the same sentiment.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodon.world/users/Parker51/statuses/116520480871213556https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodon.world/users/Parker51/statuses/116520480871213556Tue, 05 May 2026 06:10:39 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I'm not sure the best way to address this on Tue, 05 May 2026 05:51:24 GMT]]>@Parker51 @j258853
I'm not implying that anyone is terrible. I'm just saying that sending me a private message asking for money doesn't work. If asking for money is the sole reason they are soliciting me it is best that I block them to take me off their list. Requests for mutual aid show up in my timeline regularly and I have no problem with that.
I also have learned to block other unsolicited private message requests for things of a more personal nature.
Navigating social media is difficult sometimes.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://sfba.social/users/NorcalGma2/statuses/116520405215822554https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://sfba.social/users/NorcalGma2/statuses/116520405215822554Tue, 05 May 2026 05:51:24 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I'm not sure the best way to address this on Tue, 05 May 2026 05:09:09 GMT]]>@j258853 @NorcalGma2 There are genuine people from Gaza trying to survive. Not everybody asking for help is terrible, some are put under terrible conditions making them beg. The PMs I've gotten from people asking for money are all from Gaza. There is a possibility some of them are fake, but the genuine ones are not terrible people. They often engage after a post of them is liked or boosted. They don't always catch the individual circumstances of somebody having an ill husband.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodon.world/users/Parker51/statuses/116520239070211772https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodon.world/users/Parker51/statuses/116520239070211772Tue, 05 May 2026 05:09:09 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I'm not sure the best way to address this on Tue, 05 May 2026 04:30:49 GMT]]>@NorcalGma2

I figure anyone who asks you (or me) for money has no idea who we are, so I am in the block and report party

Any person who has read a few of your posts can see that you are not wealthy

You are very generous and giving, but that's different

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://zeroes.ca/users/NilaJones/statuses/116520088311596473https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://zeroes.ca/users/NilaJones/statuses/116520088311596473Tue, 05 May 2026 04:30:49 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I'm not sure the best way to address this on Tue, 05 May 2026 02:07:21 GMT]]>@NorcalGma2 I'm glad to see that your instance admin(?) replied! Private messaging you out of the blue for money is a big red flag and not okay.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://ohai.social/ap/users/116451399695437444/statuses/116519524191000459https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://ohai.social/ap/users/116451399695437444/statuses/116519524191000459Tue, 05 May 2026 02:07:21 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I'm not sure the best way to address this on Tue, 05 May 2026 02:05:53 GMT]]>@NorcalGma2 I am so sorry you have to deal with this. I am glad that you've been given some good advice.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodon.social/users/sbourne/statuses/116519518457175444https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodon.social/users/sbourne/statuses/116519518457175444Tue, 05 May 2026 02:05:53 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I'm not sure the best way to address this on Tue, 05 May 2026 01:26:06 GMT]]>@jawarajabbi @NorcalGma2

Hello
¿A study finds not indifference but ‘feelings conflicting’ |

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodon.social/users/barrettaltonh/statuses/116519361995126954https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodon.social/users/barrettaltonh/statuses/116519361995126954Tue, 05 May 2026 01:26:06 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I'm not sure the best way to address this on Tue, 05 May 2026 01:23:41 GMT]]>@NorcalGma2 I have noted a big uptick in this recently. I have no way of knowing if they are legit or not. So I just don't, and I donate to places that help others, but I know I can trust, even though they may not always be the most efficiently run. Plus we have a list of IRL people we assist.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mstdn.social/users/nomdeb/statuses/116519352502565737https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mstdn.social/users/nomdeb/statuses/116519352502565737Tue, 05 May 2026 01:23:41 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I'm not sure the best way to address this on Tue, 05 May 2026 01:21:36 GMT]]>@NorcalGma2

I turned off notifications a long time ago. I'm happy without it. To each his own!

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodon.online/users/jawarajabbi/statuses/116519344322435457https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodon.online/users/jawarajabbi/statuses/116519344322435457Tue, 05 May 2026 01:21:36 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I'm not sure the best way to address this on Tue, 05 May 2026 01:04:02 GMT]]>@NorcalGma2 I try to vet ppl I follow by looking for some of the signs they likely only hit "follow" so they cld beg for money but if somebody gets through my vetting and asks, I block 'em.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mstdn.social/users/BluegrassRoots/statuses/116519275201784311https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mstdn.social/users/BluegrassRoots/statuses/116519275201784311Tue, 05 May 2026 01:04:02 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I'm not sure the best way to address this on Tue, 05 May 2026 00:25:49 GMT]]>@NorcalGma2
First, big hug! 🫂
You're not alone with this. There are people on here I interact with everyday I would love to help but I just don't have the extra funds. (And the Canadian exchange rate is a killer.) Then there's the fraudsters and 'others' I simple block. I don't feel bad because we all do what we can, when we can. 🌻

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://beige.party/users/OohOkayKay/statuses/116519124967384764https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://beige.party/users/OohOkayKay/statuses/116519124967384764Tue, 05 May 2026 00:25:49 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I'm not sure the best way to address this on Tue, 05 May 2026 00:13:18 GMT]]>@CuriousMagpie @NorcalGma2 That's actually nice of you. I usually just block, but maybe I will start blocking with a good wish. ❤️

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://thepit.social/users/APBBlue/statuses/116519075761672099https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://thepit.social/users/APBBlue/statuses/116519075761672099Tue, 05 May 2026 00:13:18 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I'm not sure the best way to address this on Tue, 05 May 2026 00:04:17 GMT]]>@jeridansky @NorcalGma2 I block any account that requests a follow when the only apparent purpose for the account is asking for money.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodon.online/users/Axomamma/statuses/116519040260811178https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodon.online/users/Axomamma/statuses/116519040260811178Tue, 05 May 2026 00:04:17 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I'm not sure the best way to address this on Mon, 04 May 2026 23:48:24 GMT]]>@jeridansky
I will start reporting them. Thanks!

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://sfba.social/users/NorcalGma2/statuses/116518977804375004https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://sfba.social/users/NorcalGma2/statuses/116518977804375004Mon, 04 May 2026 23:48:24 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I'm not sure the best way to address this on Mon, 04 May 2026 23:47:42 GMT]]>@NorcalGma2 Mutual aid posts are fine; sending people private messages like this is not OK. On sfba.com, we'll suspend any such account reported to us (including the private message in the report helps) so they don't bother anyone else on our instance, either.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://sfba.social/users/jeridansky/statuses/116518975100484052https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://sfba.social/users/jeridansky/statuses/116518975100484052Mon, 04 May 2026 23:47:42 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I'm not sure the best way to address this on Mon, 04 May 2026 23:47:06 GMT]]>@NorcalGma2 Social media is not the place to decide where to spend your charitable donations. I would just block, move on and not give their scammy messages another thought.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://sfba.social/users/955_36/statuses/116518972741848873https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://sfba.social/users/955_36/statuses/116518972741848873Mon, 04 May 2026 23:47:06 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to I'm not sure the best way to address this on Mon, 04 May 2026 23:40:37 GMT]]>@NorcalGma2 @HarriettMB looks useful. But I cannot find how to do this ...

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://cosocial.ca/users/deborahh/statuses/116518947194828907https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://cosocial.ca/users/deborahh/statuses/116518947194828907Mon, 04 May 2026 23:40:37 GMT