<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><rss xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" version="2.0"><channel><title><![CDATA[today&#x27;s showerthought:]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p>today's showerthought:</p><p>one of the reasons why non-transfeminine queer people have such an adverse reaction to transfeminism is because transfems' ability to articulate a model of self-determination threatens to end the uncompensated labor they're extracting from us. </p><p>transfeminism aims to articulate theories debunking the ideas underlying transfeminized debt - the paradigm that has transfems arriving in communities with labor expected of us by default in order to compensate for our "male privilege." however, if we're not "male privileged" - if, in fact, we experienced marginalization even when we were in the closet - then the premise behind transfeminized debt disappears. and, consequently, so does the pressure placed on us to provide labor for others as a default state of being. </p><p>and that's scary to non-transfems, because they're all benefiting from that uncompensated labor.</p>]]></description><link>https://board.circlewithadot.net/topic/0f3f1f91-d4b6-48f3-be20-3a8af0ccf0dc/today-s-showerthought</link><generator>RSS for Node</generator><lastBuildDate>Fri, 15 May 2026 06:09:27 GMT</lastBuildDate><atom:link href="https://board.circlewithadot.net/topic/0f3f1f91-d4b6-48f3-be20-3a8af0ccf0dc.rss" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml"/><pubDate>Fri, 08 May 2026 20:02:41 GMT</pubDate><ttl>60</ttl><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to today&#x27;s showerthought: on Fri, 08 May 2026 20:28:02 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p dir="auto"><a class="plugin-mentions-user plugin-mentions-a" href="/user/ykantrachelread%40social.treehouse.systems" aria-label="Profile: YKantRachelRead@social.treehouse.systems">@<bdi>YKantRachelRead@social.treehouse.systems</bdi></a> <img src="https://board.circlewithadot.net/assets/plugins/nodebb-plugin-emoji/emoji/android/1f4af.png?v=28325c671da" class="not-responsive emoji emoji-android emoji--100" style="height:23px;width:auto;vertical-align:middle" title="💯" alt="💯" /> - yes. I am sorry you had to deal with that.. I'm fortunate at the moment to have to only deal with my own high expectations <img src="https://board.circlewithadot.net/assets/plugins/nodebb-plugin-emoji/emoji/android/1f643.png?v=28325c671da" class="not-responsive emoji emoji-android emoji--upside_down_face" style="height:23px;width:auto;vertical-align:middle" title="🙃" alt="🙃" /></p>
]]></description><link>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://soc.femme.cat/objects/e4d63b84-a2dd-48bd-9612-0b3e43ce4681</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://soc.femme.cat/objects/e4d63b84-a2dd-48bd-9612-0b3e43ce4681</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[steff@soc.femme.cat]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Fri, 08 May 2026 20:28:02 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to today&#x27;s showerthought: on Fri, 08 May 2026 20:23:56 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p><span><a href="/user/steff%40soc.femme.cat" rel="nofollow noopener">@<span>steff</span></a></span> remembering when I was early in my transition and I just took on some pretty awful criticism of my appearance from my ex-wife because "well women are expected to be more presentable than men," and, yeah <img src="https://board.circlewithadot.net/assets/plugins/nodebb-plugin-emoji/emoji/android/1f623.png?v=28325c671da" class="not-responsive emoji emoji-android emoji--persevere" style="height:23px;width:auto;vertical-align:middle" title="😣" alt="😣" /></p>]]></description><link>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://social.treehouse.systems/users/YKantRachelRead/statuses/116540823085580675</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://social.treehouse.systems/users/YKantRachelRead/statuses/116540823085580675</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[ykantrachelread@social.treehouse.systems]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Fri, 08 May 2026 20:23:56 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to today&#x27;s showerthought: on Fri, 08 May 2026 20:21:48 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p dir="auto"><a class="plugin-mentions-user plugin-mentions-a" href="/user/ykantrachelread%40social.treehouse.systems" aria-label="Profile: YKantRachelRead@social.treehouse.systems">@<bdi>YKantRachelRead@social.treehouse.systems</bdi></a> It's not simply our own behavior, but when others consider sexism towards us to be affirming..... things get very.. um.. <em>bizarre</em> very quickly...</p>
]]></description><link>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://soc.femme.cat/objects/935ad939-c896-4091-bbda-c60958895211</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://soc.femme.cat/objects/935ad939-c896-4091-bbda-c60958895211</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[steff@soc.femme.cat]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Fri, 08 May 2026 20:21:48 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to today&#x27;s showerthought: on Fri, 08 May 2026 20:16:13 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p><span><a href="/user/steff%40soc.femme.cat" rel="nofollow noopener">@<span>steff</span></a></span> yep, absolutely. the ewwphoric pull of "behaving like a woman under patriarchy makes me feel good" is a strong one</p>]]></description><link>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://social.treehouse.systems/users/YKantRachelRead/statuses/116540792742580094</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://social.treehouse.systems/users/YKantRachelRead/statuses/116540792742580094</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[ykantrachelread@social.treehouse.systems]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Fri, 08 May 2026 20:16:13 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to today&#x27;s showerthought: on Fri, 08 May 2026 20:14:09 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p dir="auto"><a class="plugin-mentions-user plugin-mentions-a" href="/user/ykantrachelread%40social.treehouse.systems" aria-label="Profile: YKantRachelRead@social.treehouse.systems">@<bdi>YKantRachelRead@social.treehouse.systems</bdi></a> I feel like part of the trans feminine journey is a journey into rationalizing or accepting patriarchal norms - either held by ourselves or expected from others. Transfeminism tasks us to challenge these both internally and externally. Within queer spaces, the confrontation of unexamined patriarchal expectations is, just, frequently met with hostility.</p>
]]></description><link>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://soc.femme.cat/objects/ea1b3b71-ccf1-4b28-b2cb-ff5c2c514c73</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://soc.femme.cat/objects/ea1b3b71-ccf1-4b28-b2cb-ff5c2c514c73</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[steff@soc.femme.cat]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Fri, 08 May 2026 20:14:09 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to today&#x27;s showerthought: on Fri, 08 May 2026 20:13:47 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p>imagine a world where "trans women are forcing trans men and enbies out of queer communities by [checks notes] unapologetically taking up space in significant numbers" is an argument that we never have to hear again, and you'll understand exactly what I'm getting at</p>]]></description><link>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://social.treehouse.systems/users/YKantRachelRead/statuses/116540783195930381</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://social.treehouse.systems/users/YKantRachelRead/statuses/116540783195930381</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[ykantrachelread@social.treehouse.systems]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Fri, 08 May 2026 20:13:47 GMT</pubDate></item></channel></rss>